I have been dating my boyfriend for over three years and as the time has passed I have become increasingly obsessed with getting engaged. First let me clarify what I mean by obsessed. I have already picked out the ring and I visit it online several times a day. I even have the page loaded in my iphone in case I want to drop in to say hello on the go.
I have scoured the islands for the perfect beach spot to have a wedding, and I check in every few days in hopes that I may find a sale on the villa. Like every woman in these ravaged economic times, I love a good bargain, so why not on a wedding?
I fantasize about how I will feel when he pops the question and try to get into his head to see if he's thinking about it too. This inevitably leads me to look dreamily at him and ask that inane question "Whatcha thinkin?" I dare say my 'googly' eyes look a little crazy when I get that way.
I started surfing the web for wedding dresses but then stopped that practice. I realized I was getting ahead of myself, since I wasn't even over the first hurdle. I was not engaged.
December is the most popular month of the year for engagements, and as my wedding clock ticks away, so does my sanity. The vain thought that I don't want to look old in my wedding pictures slips into my mind, and I have to dismiss it along with fears that he will never ask or that maybe he thinks I am not marriage material.
As I hear stories of friends who got engaged over the holidays, I feel happy for them as well as a tinge of jealousy that I have not achieved the coveted status of fiance. With all of these negative thoughts feeding my insecurities, I feel the need to address all the ladies who suffer from this common condition: Ring Bling Obsession!
No matter how long you have been in a relationship, you have to remember that making the decision to get engaged takes time and everyone works according to their own schedule. It's time to step back and take a deep breath if you are one of the millions of women who, like me, suffer from ring bling obsession.
It is time to ask ourselves why we have allowed this obsession to take over our lives and rule our spirits. I have come to realize that my ring bling obsession stems from the need for security, and even though I have a loving, trusting, beautiful relationship, I want the stability that lets me know that I will have this relationship forever.
Take a look inside yourself and try to understand why you suffer from ring bling obsession. Do you want control, acknowledgment, stability, division, or connection? What do you fear losing? Your happiness is based on your perception, so focus on what you have instead of being obsessed with what you don't have. The day will come when you get to call yourself his wife, but until then, enjoy every moment you get to call him your love.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Ring Bling Obsession: I Have to Get Engaged!
Monday, January 18, 2010
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