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For all of you women out there that believe in the age old adage that “all men cheat” this post is for you. Though I don’t personally agree with those words I do agree that men [and women] do cheat–it’s just a common fact. So ladies, I present to you a few reasons why your “cheating” man is creeping behind your back and it has nothing to do with you.
- Insecurity – If your mate is insecure then he may think that you’re already cheating on him or will do so eventually so he’ll use cheating as sort of an insurance policy. The reasoning is that when the day comes when you tell him that you’re leaving him for his best friend Ray Ray or one of your co-workers he can tell you the laundry list of women he slept with behind your back. More than likely this list will contain one of your friends, one of your co-workers or even a few family members.
- Jealousy – Some men are very jealous and simply cheat to get their women as a means of revenge for flirting with or getting too close to or friendly with someone from the opposite sex. Jealous men feel insulted when their women allow another man into their space. After all, a jealous mate more than likely views you as his property and if you let another man get close to what’s his he’s going to get pissed. So what other way than to make himself feel better than to go out and sleep with someone behind your back.
- Peer Pressure – When the guys are out with other guys its a fact that they will try to make him cheat. This is especially true when there is no way of you’ll find out about it. Whether its his co-workers when he’s on a business trip or if he’s spending the weekend away with his buddies the challenge will arrise. If your man is easily influenced he may give into the temptation out of fear that he may seem less masculine infront of his friends if he does not give in.
- Sex Addiction – Maybe your cheating man is just addicted to sex. Sex addiction occurs in men that grew up feeling inadequate or grew up believing that they were never good at anything in life. However, for some reason these men happen to have mastered the art of pleasing a woman. They engage in as much sex as possible to maintain that feeling of adequacy–it’s almost like a high. This obviously becomes a problem when it’s time to settle down with one partner, because it becomes hard to be satisfied by just that one person. The end result: the person fills the void with another sex partner or two on the side.
- Narcism – If you’re dating a narcissist then you can be almost certain that they are fooling around behind your back. Most narcissistic men believe they are God’s gift to women and feel that sex with them is a gift that they are entitled to bestow upon the women they feel are the most deserving on of this gift. This criteria is usually based on physical appearance. So, if your narcissistic lover lays eyes on a woman that is more attractive than you then he may feel that he has the divine right to go and freak her and you’d better not object because you’re lucky that he’s piping you to begin with.
So ladies, if you have been dealing with a cheating man and have been wondering what you are doing wrong please realize that it may not be your fault at all. The fates of dating and relationships probably dealt you your unfair share of insecure, jealous, easily influenced, sex addicted, narcissistic partners.
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